Dibs in Search of Self: Personality Development in Play Therapy Characters ´ 9

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Dibs in Search of Self: Personality Development in Play Therapy Characters ´ 9 Ù The classic of child therapy Dibs will not talk He will not play He has locked himself in a very special prison And he is alone This is the true story of how he learned to reach out for the sunshine for life how he came to E how he came to the breathless discovery of himself that brought him back to the world of other childr. I have read this over and over and I will definitely read it again It's a true story written by a therapist about a little boy who turns out to be autistic but this was when autism was a little known condition I can't really say much about it because I'll end up sounding American and all that jazz Just read it

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The classic of child therapy Dibs will not talk He will not play He has locked himself in a very specia. this book seems to cause strong reactions so let me first say what i think it is not it is not a book that predicts how a generic child will improve when treated the way virginia axline treats dibs how does she treat dibs she mostly describes dibs’ behavior not hers it is not a book about diagnostics dibs is given exactly zero labels it is not a book about techniue; it is not a manual even in the broadest sense of the word finally it is not a book about etiology or the genesis of children's pain not even this particular child's even though the author does give some sense of what happened to dibs prior to their encounterwhat i think this book is is the story of a very uniue encounter between two uniue individuals who found each other clicked in a tremendously effective way and led each other to change and growth for all of axline's emphasis on the self the finding of the self the building up of the self the solidifying of the self etc DSS is about relationship and love the specific relationship axline built with this specific child and the love story they createdwhat struck me most about the book what i keep thinking about is that healing love in whatever context you find it has one defining feature it makes room for the other axline's behavior toward dibs may seem at a superficial level pretty empty she echoes his words and provides affirmation for pretty much all of his wishes desires and behaviors since she doesn't describe herself we don't know anything about her body language and her own behavior but after a bit i got the impression that she was warm and smiling that she didn't move much except when dibs asked her to and that she kept her attention riveted on dibs as dibs himself observes he is such an fabulous patient; he notices everything and gives constant feedback and i am pretty sure gratification there is nothing he cannot do in the playroom this is fantastic for him and seems to be exactly what he needs the only thing he cannot do is stay past his time and this is something axline and dibs return to over and over it's hard for dibs to leave especially at first when his situation at home is still extremely tense and hostile but it's hard for him later too this specific therapeutic moment the time when the session is over is an extremely important one crucial really and i think that in a good therapeutic couple the loss is felt by both therapist and patient one thing dibs learns from axline is that losses are not permanent he also learns that losses are harbingers of new gains and joys often in pretty short order and in great abundance it's a bit like waiting until dinner when you want a snack half an hour before the food is ready by the end of the treatment dibs adores the thought of thursday the way in which axline makes room for dibs is truly wonderful and the most shining lesson of this small book i have thought about this and i believe the heart of this making room is total emptiness and total fullness combined the therapist empties herself of expectations demands or judgments except for the very broad judgment that the patient is immensely interesting and lovable in this process of self emptying though the therapist becomes an extremely strong presence it is one of the greatest miracles of humanness the room we make for others the we empty ourselves of our own needs with respect to others the we grow in presence and impact we become as insubstantial and irresistible as pure light now this self emptying can take place in all sorts of ways and contexts and with all sorts of gradations the therapeutic setting is one in which this happens very intensely and to a very high degree this is one of the reasons why therapeutic sessions typically last 50 minutes there are other settings that are similar healing settings in which the therapist is not someone with a degree and a job the idea is the same i think that what dibs feels what blows him away what makes him giddy with joy is the loving space the bright presence the full emptiness he experiences with his miss A he has never had that experiencing it for the first time is dizzying to him you can see the life being poured into him and him drinking at it till he's sated it's wonderful so ultimately this seems a book about how two people can meet and fall in love and then because one of these two people is a sad and hurt little boy how one of them pours everything she ‘s got into healing him there is by the way as far as i can see no judgment from axline about the parents the mother's visit with axline is wonderful axline treats the mother the same way she treats dibs she listens takes her in gives her space passes no judgment at all honors her pain and confusion gives no advice in a really lovely passage little five year old dibs goes up to miss A and asks her what are you you are not a mom because i have my mom; you are not a teacher because i have my teachers what are you axline echoes dibs' puzzlement rather than providing an answer what would that answer be anyway and dibs happily moves on i think this book is an answer to this uestion what is a therapist a therapist a good therapist is someone who delves into the dark with you comes with you wherever you take her sticks with you and loves you madly and she does this while being and staying herself and human and normal

Summary Dibs in Search of Self: Personality Development in Play Therapy

Dibs in Search of Self Personality Development in Play TherapyL prison And he is alone This is the true story of how he learned to reach out for the sunshine for lif. I would have liked to give this book 5 stars But I only gave it for for this reason it didn’t go into the depth of the study as much as I would have liked it to Then again you have to look at it this way what audience was the author aiming for and also the year it was written Play Therapy has come a long way since thenSo I see this book as a good introduction to what Play Therapy has the possibility to achieve